So, today’s post might not be liked by everyone.
That’s right- it’s unpopular opinion time. And this one’s a doozy.
Your twenties aren’t supposed to be ‘roaring.’
This isn’t supposed to be the greatest time of your life. This is the beginning, here we make mistakes and learn how to do the things we’ll be doing for the rest of our lives. NOW is the time to build a solid foundation for our future lives- a foundation that will stand firm, even through the hardest and darkest of times. For me, personally, I recognize this time as a time where I’m supposed to be grinding and working so hard that I can’t even remember what day it is. The PURPOSE of this time, for me, is the work so hard so that later in life, I won’t have to. This chapter in my life is supposed to be for me to build a fantastic life for myself, my soon to be husband, and our three, beautiful children.
Success doesn’t come overnight. it comes with work.
Duh Jaiden. That’s a given, why are you feeling the need to make that a whole separate heading in this post?
Because. I’m a millennial, I get it. I’ve seen the memes talking about how we’re tired; we’re overworked, under appreciated, underpaid. But the thing is- we have it made. This is one of the first times EVER where someone can get a good job with no degree. This is a time where yes, women are still underpaid when in comparison to men- but we can still go out and get a job. It’s only been within the last 100 years that we, as women, are even able to join the military!!
The world is literally our oyster. Me, personally? I don’t have a degree. But I don’t have to worry about not being able to provide a good life for my family, and for my children’s children, because of that fact. There are more jobs now, than ever, that a good work ethic and a strong sense of dedication can help you work your way up the ladder. We CAN work for our dreams, regardless of where we come from or who our parents are. The opportunities are ENDLESS- if you’re willing to put in the work for it.
But Jaiden- Sally & Johnny didn’t have to work hard to get where they wanted to go!
Look. Here’s a hard lesson to learn, especially if you haven’t learned it yet and you’re already 20 something.
Life isn’t fair.
I remember hearing this, so many times when I was growing up. This, along with “nothing in life comes free,” are two things that I always keep close to the front of my mind. Some people are born into those families who did work hard, and it has paid off so generously, that they are able to continue providing for generations and generations after their success. But that isn’t the case for anyone- and honestly, thank God it isn’t. Can you imagine if we all had the same story, and if we never ever had to work for anything? You wouldn’t appreciate any of the things you had. There would be no sense of pride in the empire that you’d built for yourself and your loved ones, because the moment you were born, you would’ve had it.
Now, for those of you with qualms about the “nothing in life is free” statement- yes, I’ve been to Sams Club on free sample day. It’s the best day ever, and if you haven’t experienced it, you’re missing out. I understand that things are free- samples, birthday treats from various businesses, etc. But at the end of the day, the things that are worth having? Those aren’t free. That beautiful farm house with blue shutters and a giant pasture? Costs money. That Porsche you drool over every time you pass the dealership (if that’s your thing)? Money money money, baby. I get it, too. The world isn’t about material possessions. But even financial or emotional security take work. You have to constantly either work at your business, job, side hustle, whatever it may be. Or you have to constantly be putting in work on yourself, investing in personal development, working at how you can improve YOU, to actually achieve emotional security as well.
“So what are you saying? My life is supposed to SUCK??”
NO. That’s the opposite of what I’m saying. Life is supposed to be exciting, beautiful, rewarding. But you have got to work to get to the parts of life that give you those experiences.
Kids take work.
Jobs take work.
Relationships (oh god, relationships) take work.
Everyday, all day, you have to wake up, show up, and commit to working towards your goals. Whatever they are. You want to make your relationship with your spouse better? Work. You want to get a promotion in the next six months? Better put your nose to the grindstone and get going. You want to be able to buy a beautiful mansion in the hills? You better start penny pinching or something, because that house ain’t cheap (and neither are property taxes, let’s be real).
Life is what you make it. So if you don’t work for what you want, it’s not going to work for you, either. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.